I’ve been literally bombarded with friends, acquaintances, and passers-by who are lamenting the loss of a relationship with the opposite sex. Some of them are living lives where it seems that no relationship ever works out. Many of my acquaintances have gone through relationship after relationship only to continually face break-ups, rejection, and heartache.
I’m going to revive an old principle here, and most of you will blatantly reject it. I’m fine with that. I already know that you think you know best about your life, and that’s probably the attitude that has resulted in the situation in which you currently find yourself. I pray that you will find peace. But, for some of you, you’ll hear what I have to say here today and it will change your life.
You’ve asked yourself, “Why do my relationships never seem to work out? Why can’t I find that special someone? Am I supposed to be alone?”
My answer is not the kind that people talk about at parties. The conciliatory response of, “Don’t worry, you’ll find somebody eventually” will not be uttered here today. My belief, and the belief of many who associate with me, is that some people are not supposed to be married, have kids, and live happily ever after.
Some people are called to be eunuchs for the Kingdom of God.
I submit that the reason you’ve never been able to find a partner who lives up to your standard is because you’ve been fearfully and wonderfully made by a creator who set his own perfection in your heart as your default standard for love. You were created to transcend the limits of “worship” and find romance with your creator. You’re called to be a warrior, totally devoted to nothing but your King, who will also become your husband in the last days.
I’ve actually heard a gay man tell me, “I’m gay. I just never liked girls, you know?” That doesn’t mean you’re gay! It means that you were intended to devote your life to something else besides the status quo of a wife, a dog, and 2.5 children. You were supposed to engage the globe with the Gospel of Christ. Did the thought ever occur to you that God didn’t want you to have a wife so that you could be free to travel to Zimbabwe on a moment’s notice for the Kingdom? Come on!
I swear to you, if these words are registering with you today, you will never find happiness outside of Jesus. You have a God-shaped hole in your being, and no man or woman will ever fill it. You might as well surrender now and live loved.
God loves you with a perfect love, and you will begin to grasp the extent of that love when you totally devote your life to worshipping Him. Prayer, fasting, and late nights of fervent worship will replace myspace, facebook, and the bar and club scene. Why? Because true love causes you to change things. Mark my words.
If this is you, ask me how it works.














